Non-Religious. Simple With Poem By Kahlil Gibran

MARRIAGE CEREMONY # 7
(Simple with Poem by Kahlil Gilbran)

Dear friends, we are gathered here at this hour to witness and to celebrate the drawing together of two separate lives.

We have come to that this man, _________ and this woman, ________ may be joined in marriage. It is not to be entered into lightly, but with certainty, mutual respect and a sense of reverence, which does not preclude beauty, humor or happiness.

Love can be one of the highest experiences that comes to humankind. At its best, it reduces our selfishness, deepens our personalities and makes life far more meaningful. The day-to-day companionship, the pleasure in doing things together, or in doing separate things but in delighting to exchange experiences, is a continuous and central part of what a man and a woman who love each other can share.

Matrimony symbolizes the ultimate intimacy between a man and a woman; yet this closeness should not diminish but strengthen the individuality of each partner. It is said that a marriage that lasts is one that always has a little more to grow.

From the Lebanese Poet Kahlil Gibran:

“Sing and dance together and be joyous,
but let each one of you be alone
Even the strings of a lute are alone
Though they quiver with the same music
Give your hearts, but not into each other’s
keeping. For only the hand of life can
contain your hearts.
And stand together yet, not too near
together, for the pillars of the temple
stand apart, and the oak tree and the
cypress grown not in each other’s shadow.”

Thus it is out of the resonance between individuality and union that love, whose incredible strength is equal only to its incredible fragility, is born and reborn.

Today’s celebration of human affection is therefore the outward sign of a sacred and inward commitment, which societies may consecrate and states may legalize, but which neither can create or annul. Such union can only be created by loving purpose, be maintained by willpower and be renewed by human feelings and intentions. In this spirit these two persons stand before us.

VOWS

__________, will you have this woman to be your wedded wife, to live together in the honorable estate of matrimony? Will you love her, comfort her and honor her in sickness and health and forsaking all others, keep you only unto her as long as you both shall live?

__________, will you have this man to be your wedded husband, top live together in the honorable estate of matrimony? Will you love him, comfort him and honor him in sickness and in health and forsaking all others, keep you only unto him as long as you both shall live?

DECLARATION

Please join hands and face each other and repeat after me:

(TO THE GROOM) I _______, take you, __________, to be my wedded wife, to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, ‘till death do us part.

(TO THE BRIDE) I _______, take you, __________, to be my wedded husband, to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, ‘till death do us part.

EXCHANGE OF RINGS

(TO THE GROOM): Placing the ring on her finger repeat after me:

Take and wear this ring as a symbol of our marriage vows.

(TO THE BRIDE): Placing the ring on his finger repeat after me:

Take and wear this ring as a symbol of our marriage vows.

CONCLUDING REMARKS

For one human being to love another, that is perhaps the hardest of all our tasks, the ultimate test and proof, the work for which all other work is but preparation…love…is a high inducement to the individual to ripen, to become something in himself, to become….a world to himself for another’s sake…human love consists in this, that two solitudes protect and touch and greet each other.

May these two people, now married, fulfill this covenant which they have made. May they openly give and take from each other, encouraging each other in whatever trials that may befall them, sharing in each other’s joys, helping each other as each occasion requires. Having grown to trust themselves and each other, may they be unafraid to trust and welcome life.

For as much as ___________________ and _________________ have consented together in wedlock and have witnessed the same before this company and thereto have given and pledged their troth to each other and have declared the same by giving and receiving of rings and by joining of hands, I now pronounce that they are husband and wife.

You may kiss the Bride!