Setting boundaries for a low-conflict divorce

Setting boundaries for a low-conflict divorce

| Dec 23, 2020 | Uncategorized

When you marry your partner, you’ll probably feel that you know each other more than anyone else, and have a seemingly unbreakable bond. When you are in the best stages of your relationship, you’ll be great communicators and will find it difficult to see how your relationship could ever fall apart. But relationships are constantly changing, and, unfortunately, unforeseeable circumstances can tear them apart.

If you are now at the point where you are considering divorce, you are probably concerned about the process and how it will affect your future. If you and your spouse have children together, it is likely that you want to preserve your relationship so that you are able to successfully co-parent together in the future. The following are some ways in which you can maintain a low-conflict relationship through the divorce process by setting boundaries.

Stop talking to each other like you’re still married

If you are intending to go through a divorce, you should act like it. There needs to be a significant shift in your communication to reflect the change in your relationship. This does not mean that you should be cold to each other – quite the opposite. You should treat each other as though you are co-workers; respectful and warm, but not asking questions that are personal or confrontational.

Establish ground rules

Making the shift to a co-worker relationship may not feel natural at first. Therefore, it could be useful to establish some ground rules. These rules could help you to prevent arguments. For example, maybe you want to put a “don’t ask, don’t tell” rule about new relationships to prevent either of you from becoming hurt or jealous about your ex’s dating life.

If you are going through a divorce and you want to ensure that you don’t become involved in a high-conflict and toxic process, start by setting your intentions and creating a strategy that supports this.