You Are My Best Friend
YOU ARE MY BEST FRIEND
With children’s vows.
By Attorney Andrew W. Schmidt. Dedicated to my wife Susan.
© 2013 Andrew Schmidt, Court Commissioner, Marathon County, Wisconsin
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Ladies and gentlemen; today _______GROOM and _______BRIDE have come together to express their mutual love, their devotion and their desire to unite in marriage. They ask all of you – their family and friends – to participate in their happiness and joy. Further, they ask of all of you to participate in their union, from today until, well – forever!
Until recently you all have been merely observers to _______GROOM and _______BRIDE’S growing friendship and their embracing love. Today you have the privilege – no, the honor – to participate in _______BRIDE’S and _______GROOM’S commitment to each other in marriage. And in return, this couple asks all of you to participate in their marriage as observers and supporters.
Marriage is a promise made in the hearts of two people who love each other. For those of us who have been married a long time we already know that within its circle of love marriage encompasses all of life’s most important relationships. A wife and a husband are each other’s lover, teacher, listener, critic but most of all – you are each other’s Best Friend.
Marrying your Best Friend is not creepy, strange or something taboo as the movies and TV suggest. They are wrong! Marrying your Best Friend is as breath-taking as winning the gold medal. Marrying your Best Friend is so easy, so magical and so serene that today will fly by and tomorrow will be here before you know it. You both will look back in time to this day and the days following with affection and say to yourselves, “I can’t believe we’ve been married this long.”
Being each other’s Best Friend entails super human strengths of acceptance, humility, forgiveness, trust and devotion to each other. Your Best Friend will provide energy for you to live your life fully, will give you more affection than a hundred puppies and will be your crutch when you are down, sick and tired. Your spouse’s presence is not necessary for their memory can cause you to do things wondrous and great.
_______GROOM, please repeat after me:
I, _______GROOM, take you, _______BRIDE, to be my wife. Together, we can accomplish anything. I pledge to honor, encourage and support you. When our way becomes difficult, I promise to stand by you and uplift you, so that through our union we can accomplish more than we could alone. I promise to work at our love and always make you a priority in my life. With every beat of my heart, I will love you. This is my solemn vow.
_______BRIDE, please repeat after me:
I, _______BRIDE, take you, _______GROOM, to be my husband. Together, we can accomplish anything. I pledge to honor, encourage and support you. When our way becomes difficult, I promise to stand by you and uplift you, so that through our union we can accomplish more than we could alone. I promise to work at our love and always make you a priority in my life. With every beat of my heart, I will love you. This is my solemn vow.
To you both, your family and friends charge you with the obligation that you now owe them a life time of love for each other, devotion to your marriage and respect for each other, your family and friends, your community and god.
To the friends of _______BRIDE and _______GROOM, you are now asked to respect, cherish and foster the growth of this new relationship. You are asked to share your love, your experiences and all that life has to offer these two.
Groom: _______BRIDE, I give you this ring as an expression of my deepest love and my endless devotion to you. Please touch it frequently to remember this day and my love for you.
Bride: _______GROOM, I give you this ring as an expression of my deepest love and my endless devotion to you. Please touch it frequently to remember this day and my love for you.
VOWS FOR CHILDREN OF COUPLE – OPTIONAL-
By the children:
- Would you like _______GROOM/_______BRIDE to become a part of your new family?
- Do you promise to allow them time alone so that they can make their marriage better?
- Do you promise to help them be best friends?
By the Parent:
- Would you like _______CHILDREN to join you and _______GROOM/ _______BRIDE in your new family?
- Do you promise to allow them time alone with their MOM/DAD so that they can grow in their relationship?
- Do you promise to teach them respect, love and responsibility for each other and others?
- Are you going to have fun?
On this beautiful day and in this wondrous location, with your family and friends by your side AND by the authority vested in me by the State of Wisconsin, I now pronounce you Husband and Wife.
_______GROOM, you may kiss your bride!
Ladies and gentlemen, I introduce to you Mr. and Mrs. ___________________________________.